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Published Monday June 15th, 2009 at 8:14pm

Original Article by Amanda W.

Diane as a person...... I feel like I'm a honest person when it comes to sharing my experience with adoption. I have opened up even more about it when I was reunited with my 2 birthchildren.

How Diane Became a Birth Mother..... I gave birth in 1987 to my son and I was 18, I had just graduated from high school when I found out I was pregnant. However, I had no place to live and a way to comfortably provide for my son and I wanted him to have a dad around for guidance. Well, after I place him for adoption about a few months later, I got pregnant again with the same guy. I was close to keeping my daughter and thought this time I could do it. Unfortunately, I got stuck in the same boat, with no stable home or enough money to survive, so about a month before I gave birth I placed her for adoption with my son. So they grew up together all of these years. Unfortunately, after they were 4 & 5 their parents divorced alot of rocky situations happened with their family and now their adad doesn't want anything to do with them.

Messages From Diane...... My message to an expectant mom would be don't give up trying to find resources to parent first, no one explain to me how I would possibly feel after the reunion.

Does Diane agree with opening up unconditional, uncensored access to birth records? Why or why not? Yes, all adoptees have a right to their birth records. They should have every access to find out where they come from and a chance to get know their birthparents. I wish every state had easy access to birthrecords for adoptees.

Diane's Reunion......... I've been reunited for over 2 years now. It's been alot more emotional rollercoaster ride than I ever thought it would be. On top of that, I never began to imagine the bond I would form with my 2 children. They tell me they love me right from our first ftf meeting which was 1 1/2 months after my daughter had found me. They both consider me their mom and they both called me that in some way or form. My youngest son is their half brother and all 3 of them get along great, my youngest love having his older brother & sister around, we try to visit them as much as we can. They also love my husband as well and consider him a stepdad even though he isn't their birthdad. As for their birthfather they have been reunited with him as well and have formed a relationship with him. Maybe not in the family way like us, but in it's own unique bond. I would never have changed this experience for the world because now I can hold, talk to and see my children.

A special thank you to Diane for sharing her personal story. Reuniting is a happy beginning....I love happy beginnings :-) People have been contacting me telling me they love my series. I know Diane's story will be a beloved addition for my readers.