Published Monday June 15th, 2009 at 8:14pm
Diane as a person...... I feel like I'm ahonest person when it comes to sharing my experience with adoption. Ihave opened up even more about it when I was reunited with my 2birthchildren.
How Diane Became a Birth Mother..... Igave birth in 1987 to my son and I was 18, I had just graduated fromhigh school when I found out I was pregnant. However, I had no place tolive and a way to comfortably provide for my son and I wanted him tohave a dad around for guidance. Well, after I place him for adoptionabout a few months later, I got pregnant again with the same guy. I wasclose to keeping my daughter and thought this time I could do it.Unfortunately, I got stuck in the same boat, with no stable home orenough money to survive, so about a month before I gave birth I placedher for adoption with my son. So they grew up together all of theseyears. Unfortunately, after they were 4 & 5 their parents divorcedalot of rocky situations happened with their family and now their adaddoesn't want anything to do with them.
Messages From Diane...... Mymessage to an expectant mom would be don't give up trying to findresources to parent first, no one explain to me how I would possiblyfeel after the reunion.
Does Diane agree with opening up unconditional, uncensored access to birth records? Why or why not? Yes,all adoptees have a right to their birth records. They should haveevery access to find out where they come from and a chance to get knowtheir birthparents. I wish every state had easy access to birthrecordsfor adoptees.
Diane's Reunion......... I'vebeen reunited for over 2 years now. It's been alot more emotionalrollercoaster ride than I ever thought it would be. On top of that, Inever began to imagine the bond I would form with my 2 children. Theytell me they love me right from our first ftf meeting which was 1 1/2months after my daughter had found me. They both consider me their momand they both called me that in some way or form. My youngest son istheir half brother and all 3 of them get along great, my youngest lovehaving his older brother & sister around, we try to visit them asmuch as we can. They also love my husband as well and consider him astepdad even though he isn't their birthdad. As for their birthfatherthey have been reunited with him as well and have formed a relationshipwith him. Maybe not in the family way like us, but in it's own uniquebond. I would never have changed this experience for the world becausenow I can hold, talk to and see my children.
A special thankyou to Diane for sharing her personal story. Reuniting is a happybeginning....I love happy beginnings :-) People have been contacting metelling me they love my series. I know Diane's story will be a belovedaddition for my readers.