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Published Friday June 5th, 2009 at 6:30pm

Original Article by Coley S.

In my last post I wrote about the BirthMom Buds event held at the beginning of May. Inthat post, I briefly mentioned that we had two speakers talk about howbirthmothers and adoption had changed and touched their lives.

One of the speakers was Justin, a fifteen year old adoptee. So many ofthe things he said resonated with me and touched me so I thought I’dshare them with my readers.

Justin was adopted at birth and told us that he always knew he wasadopted although it didn’t start to really click as to what beingadopted meant until he was middle school age.

Justin talked about what an amazing life he has, how much he loves his(adoptive) parents, and how grateful he is that his birthmother gavehim life.

I think the part that resonated with me the most was that Justin talkedabout how his birthmother had written him a letter each year on hisbirthday. In the letter, she’d tell him a little bit about what wasgoing on in her life. He said that he loved receiving her letters andtreasures them but on his last birthday she didn’t send a letter. Sheonly sent a card and had signed her name on the inside but didn’tinclude a letter. He was disappointed. While he said he was gratefulfor and appreciated the card, he missed the letter. He wanted to knowhow his birthmom was and what was going on in her life.

That part really hit home for me. I’ve written Charlie a letter eachand every birthday. Although I always see him on or around his birthdayI still mail the annual birthday letter.

I’ve often wondered if these letters will one day many anything to him.I guess I don’t see boys being sentimental or really treasuringanything like this but Justin showed me otherwise and because of hiswords and encouragement to all the birthmothers at our event, I’llcontinue sending those birthday letters each and every year.