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Published Friday June 26th, 2009 at 10:57am

Original Article by Kris

Dear Rosa,

It is our daughter's 5th birthday today! I wonder if you are feeling sad today. I must admit that I get a little sad that I have no memories of my daughter being born, her newborn days, her first year. I wonder what she looked like when she was born. Did she cry? Did you hold her? Did you nurse her? What was the weather like when she was born? Who delivered her? How long was your labor? Were there complications? Was anyone there to hold your hand? Did you cry? How are you doing today? Has losing her left you empty? How are your other kids? Do they ask about her?

So many questions...here's what I know...

She is the princess in our family. She is a social butterfly who never tires of other people and the more the better! She loves to play with other kids...especially boys. She loves Spongebob. People say she looks like me. She is smart. She doesn't like to sit still! She has beautiful dark brown eyes, the one feature that give away that she is not ours biologically. She is funny. She loves to make cards for people. She loves to have books read to her. She loves Play-doh and fingerpaint and sand and loves making a mess! She loves school and her teachers. She loves her grandparents, her aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers and parents. We all love her! She entered our family seamlessly. She is one of us and yet also and forever one of you.
She knows she has a birthmom named Rosa. She knows she was born in Russia. She knows I was not there the day she was born. She is not curious about it ...yet. I know that day is coming. I know birthdays may be hard for her...or not. I hope I am prepared.

I have your picture to give her when she's older. I am sure she will be hungry for information about you. I will do my best. I think of you and your children, my daughter's biological sisters and brothers. I think of you especially on this day. I hope you are well.